Sunday, April 12, 2009
Blog Move
With the recent publication of my book, I am consolidating blogs under the new title "Taking Sexy Back". Please click here to visit my new blog!
Friday, April 10, 2009
Women's Sex Mistakes cont.'
Sex Mistake #5: (From LifeScript)
Overreacting when he suggests something new
Most of us do the same thing day in and day out. And whether it’s in the bedroom or the boardroom, routine can get boring. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to spice up your love life. Men like looking at, trying out and experimenting with new things; there’s nothing sinister about it. Suggesting something new is not an implied criticism of you. It’s just a simple craving for variety. The best part is that he wants to try it with you.
Overreacting when he suggests something new
Most of us do the same thing day in and day out. And whether it’s in the bedroom or the boardroom, routine can get boring. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to spice up your love life. Men like looking at, trying out and experimenting with new things; there’s nothing sinister about it. Suggesting something new is not an implied criticism of you. It’s just a simple craving for variety. The best part is that he wants to try it with you.
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Women's Sex Mistakes cont.'
Sex Mistake #4: (From LifeScript)
Not giving him any guidance
Pleasing a woman is no easy task. So help him out! Give him explicit directions – when, where, how hard, how fast, and more.If you’re too embarrassed to cue him verbally, find another way. For example, if you’re watching a sex scene in a movie, say something like, “That’s a good move” or “That doesn’t do it for me.” Or bookmark pages in a sex book and ask him to read them. Or let out a moan when he does something that pleases you. Because when it comes to sex, communication is key.
Not giving him any guidance
Pleasing a woman is no easy task. So help him out! Give him explicit directions – when, where, how hard, how fast, and more.If you’re too embarrassed to cue him verbally, find another way. For example, if you’re watching a sex scene in a movie, say something like, “That’s a good move” or “That doesn’t do it for me.” Or bookmark pages in a sex book and ask him to read them. Or let out a moan when he does something that pleases you. Because when it comes to sex, communication is key.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Women's Sex Mistakes cont.'
Sex Mistake #3: (From LifeScript)
Obsessing about your body
So the numbers on the scale aren’t what you’d like them to be. Putting on weight is no excuse for avoiding sex. Or maybe you’re fine with your weight but there’s some other figure flaw you’re fixating on. Guess what? If he wants to have sex with you, he thinks you’re sexy. If your self-image is hindering your sex life, consult a therapist, join a support group or read a self-help book.
Obsessing about your body
So the numbers on the scale aren’t what you’d like them to be. Putting on weight is no excuse for avoiding sex. Or maybe you’re fine with your weight but there’s some other figure flaw you’re fixating on. Guess what? If he wants to have sex with you, he thinks you’re sexy. If your self-image is hindering your sex life, consult a therapist, join a support group or read a self-help book.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Women's Sex Mistakes cont'.
Sex Mistake #2: (From LifeScript)
Thinking sex ends when he climaxes
Just because he’s been fulfilled doesn’t mean you’ve been. Let him know you’re not done yet; help him find other ways to finish the job using his hands or mouth. If he’s consistently too wiped out to give you the attention you deserve, plan to have your needs met before his next time.
The ideal of partners reaching orgasm simultaneously is an unrealistic goal. Sometimes it happens - and that's great - but having it as an expectation can set you up for disappointment and leave one of you unsatisfied. Incorporate strategies into your lovemaking that allow for differences in your arousal timetables.
Thinking sex ends when he climaxes
Just because he’s been fulfilled doesn’t mean you’ve been. Let him know you’re not done yet; help him find other ways to finish the job using his hands or mouth. If he’s consistently too wiped out to give you the attention you deserve, plan to have your needs met before his next time.
The ideal of partners reaching orgasm simultaneously is an unrealistic goal. Sometimes it happens - and that's great - but having it as an expectation can set you up for disappointment and leave one of you unsatisfied. Incorporate strategies into your lovemaking that allow for differences in your arousal timetables.
Monday, April 6, 2009
Women's Sex Mistakes
It's not just men who are prone to fumbles in the bedroom. This week I'll cover some common sexual blunders that women make.
Sex Mistake #1: (From LifeScript)
Assuming he’s always up for sex
This might hold true for teenage boys, but not necessarily for men. Once males hit their mid-20s, a whole lot of things are competing for their energy. Pressures of work, bills and everyday life can put a major damper on his libido. “He’s not like a vibrator,” as Cox puts it. “You can’t just plug him in and expect him to perform on cue.” That doesn’t mean he doesn’t desire you anymore. He just truly may not be in the mood.
Sex Mistake #1: (From LifeScript)
Assuming he’s always up for sex
This might hold true for teenage boys, but not necessarily for men. Once males hit their mid-20s, a whole lot of things are competing for their energy. Pressures of work, bills and everyday life can put a major damper on his libido. “He’s not like a vibrator,” as Cox puts it. “You can’t just plug him in and expect him to perform on cue.” That doesn’t mean he doesn’t desire you anymore. He just truly may not be in the mood.
Friday, March 27, 2009
Men's Sex Mistakes cont.
Sex Mistake #6 (from WebMD)
A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex - but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what's doing it for you and what isn't. If you're respectful about it, a woman who wants to please you will probably appreciate some directions.
That doesn't mean you have to give step-by-step instructions, but making gentle suggestions and letting her know how you like it is a very useful conversation to have.
I'm headed to the beach for a much-needed vacation with my husband, so I'll be taking a break from posting for the next week. I'll be back on April 6th and will be talking about women's sex mistakes.
A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex - but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what's doing it for you and what isn't. If you're respectful about it, a woman who wants to please you will probably appreciate some directions.
That doesn't mean you have to give step-by-step instructions, but making gentle suggestions and letting her know how you like it is a very useful conversation to have.
I'm headed to the beach for a much-needed vacation with my husband, so I'll be taking a break from posting for the next week. I'll be back on April 6th and will be talking about women's sex mistakes.
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