Adapting to Change

In an earlier post, I talked about the sexual changes that come with ageing. Those changes may mean that you need to do things a little differently in order to get the same results.

If you're a woman who has always taken for granted that your man would be ‘ready to go’ whenever you gave the signal, you may now find that he needs a little more stimulation to get things up and running. That doesn’t mean that you are any less desirable or that your man isn’t interested – it just means that the engine needs to be revved up a little more than in the past. Use the opportunity to extend foreplay – lavish him with touch and use a firm grip on his penis.

Women, too, need more foreplay than in the past. If you're a man whose partner could easily reach orgasm with 15-20 minutes of foreplay in earlier days, you may now find that same partner needing 30 minutes or more of stimulation. That doesn’t mean you've lost your touch – her body has just become a little slower to respond. She may also need the help of a lubricant such as Astroglide to help things along.

This is a great time in life to slow things down a bit between the sheets and enjoy the buildup as much as the finale. There’s a world of pleasure to be taken long before getting to the big “O”.