Manly Men

In addition to exploring touch that's not orgasm-focused and then tapping into intimacy, men can become more sexual beings by identifying what makes them feel really alive. As I've discussed previously, a passion for life feeds sexual passion so it pays to stay excited, curious, and open to wonder. Don't let your mind or body get lazy - keep learning every day and stay physically active. Make sure you're feeding your spirit, as well, by staying in touch with what gives your life a sense of purpose and meaning.

Think about how you define masculinity. Does being a man mean bringing home the bacon, fixing the leaky faucet, chugging a beer during Monday night football, performing in the bedroom? How about tenderness, sensitivity, and compassion? We are all victims of society's narrow definitions of what it means to be male or female. The more you expand your definition of what it means to be a man, the more you bring wholeness to your sexuality.

Passionate Couples

You might wonder how couples who have been together a long time can beat the boredom factor and keep their sex life passionate. There seem to be some factors which help keep passion alive.

First, each of the partners in the relationship needs to find ways to stay excited about life. People who are bored are usually borING - both in and out of the sack. Staying engaged with people and activities that are stimulating, challenging, and fun is an important way to hold onto passion.

Second, the couple needs shared time and shared interests to nurture their connection. Couples who enjoy each other's company, who laugh together, and who are able to work out differences rather than building resentment are the most likely candidates for holding onto a passionate sex life.

You might want to think about how you could be a more passionate individual as well as a more passionate partner.