Sacred Sex - Part 2

In yesterday's post I talked about sex and spirituality. Bringing the spiritual dimension into your sexuality is part of creating sexual wholeness. We have plenty of examples of what can happen when people lack that wholeness - everything from sexual shame to sexual abuse. But when you are in touch with the sacred within you and within your partner, sex cannot be exploitive or hurtful. Sex becomes a truly mutual experience of giving and receiving and ceases to be appearance or performance-based.

Tomorrow I'll talk about the other dimensions of sexual wholeness.

Men's Programming

I've been talking about women in the last several posts - how they can claim their sexuality, expand their definition of what it means to be sexual, and begin paying close attention to the times when they are in touch with their sexual energy. All of these things are difficult, not only because of ageing, but because women were not programmed to be full sexual beings. But how about men? Their programming was very different - so how come so many men are suffering from low sexual desire?


Men were programmed to be sexual opportunists - to get it whenever, whereever, and with whomever they can. As males come into adolescence, their sex drive commands a lot of their attention and their frequent erections are anything but subtle signs of sexual interest. But being sexually driven - and being given permission to be sexual - does not equal sexual wholeness. When testosterone levels decrease and there's no longer a sexual thought every two minutes, men who have relied solely on their sex drive and always reliable erections for their sexual identity can feel lost and 'less like a man'. I'll post tomorrow about how men can claim more sexual wholeness.