Sexual Cues

What gets you in the mood? Are there certain cues that get your motor running? Does your partner know exactly what arouses your interest?

It's important to know your sexual cues so that you can nurture your sexual interest. It also pays to share those cues with your partner so that they know exactly what they can do to increase the chance of getting to 'yes' when they want to get something going. Maybe it's a foot rub, a neck massage, a certain outfit, a long slow kiss, an erotic movie, a hot bath, snuggling on the couch, a nibble on the ear, the smell of your lover's cologne, or reminiscing about recent sexual adventures.

Pay attention to what turns you on - and don't forget to clue in your partner.

The Top Ten

One way to ease into a conversation with your partner about individual turn-ons is for each of you to make a list of your top ten favorite sexual activities. Include the things that help you get into the mood, the kinds of foreplay you enjoy, how you like to have intercourse, and what you like to do after it's all over. Limit yourself to ten right now - you can always add to it later.

Writing down your all-time favorite sex moves does more than get a conversation started - it's an attention-grabber for your partner who will probably be less likely in the future to 'forget'what it is that gets you interested and keeps you coming back for more.