Breaking Up Boredom

I've talked about the importance of changing up your sexual routine to keep things interesting, but novelty is also important outside the sexual arena. If your relationship is basically on solid ground but you've fallen into a rut, your sex life will benefit if you put some more excitement into your life as a couple.

Try learning something new together. Take up salsa lessons, sign up for a foreign language class, or visit some wineries to discover some new wines. If you're up for a little more adventure, do some snorkeling or scuba diving, go horseback riding, or learn how to sail. When you engage in activities with your partner that are a little scary, dopamine is released in the brain which enhances both pleasure and bonding.

Don't let boredom zap your zest for life. Keeping things fresh is energizing - both inside and outside the bedroom.

Love Potion #9

A lot of men feel tricked when the passionate, horny woman they fell in love with morphs into a barely lukewarm bedmate after the honeymoon is over. And a lot of women who once couldn't get enough of their man in the sack now wonder what happened to their lust. It's like it was sucked into the same black hole that swallows up socks during the drying cycle. What's up with that?

When a woman falls in love, her dopamine and testosterone levels go up. Under the influence of these chemicals, even a woman with normally low sexual desire will feel and act like a person with high sexual desire. Unfortunately, when the romantic phase of the relationship begins winding down, the chemical potion begins to wane - and female sexual interest can start falling off. That doesn't mean she is no longer in love, and it doesn't mean kissing sex goodbye. It just means that women who don't have a lot of spontaneous desire need to be more intentional about nurturing their sexuality and keeping sex a priority. It means mixing up your own love potions to keep the action going!