Missing Kissing

When a couple's sex life falls apart, affectionate touching tends to disappear, as well. That's partly due to the emotional distance in the relationship, but is also a result of the less interested partner fearing that any physical affection will be interpreted as a sexual signal.

Kissing is frequently one of the first things to go as there is something quite intimate about giving your partner more than a passing peck on the lips. Even couples who are still having sex may have stopped kissing passionately. For those who are trying to revive their sexual relationship, discomfort with kissing their partner may feel like an insurmountable barrier.

It's important not to assume that 'kissing discomfort' means your physical relationship is doomed. It just takes time and patience with rebuilding intimacy before comfort with kissing returns. For many couples, it's not the best place to start. But for most couples, it's a great place to finish.

Kissing

Have you stopped kissing your partner? I mean really kissing - not the hello or goodbye peck that often passes for kissing in the comfortable stage of a relationship. If passionate, make- you-weak-in-the-knees kissing is only a dim memory from your early courtship, it's time to stage a revival. Real kisses are not only an easy path to seduction, but also make your partner feel important and desired. Not to mention what long, lingering kisses can do for your own libido.

So, brush your teeth, gargle a bit, and surprise your lover with some old-fashioned necking. Start slowly - you don't have to drive your tongue down your lover's throat right away. A few soft kisses on the face, neck, and ears will help build anticipation. Then some gentle kisses on the lips, followed by a gradual increase in tongue action, followed by........... Use your imagination.