Do you wait for your partner to initiate sex, then get you in the mood, and finally 'give' you an orgasm? If you're giving the responsibility for your sex life to your partner, you're giving up a lot of power.
Try taking ownership of your sexuality. If you're usually passive, ask your partner to switch roles with you for the next two weeks and commit to being the one who decides when, where, and how the action goes down. Do exactly what you need to do to maximize your pleasure, whether that means starting the action with a slow dance, using a vibrator, being on top during intercourse, or extending foreplay. Ask your partner for what you need from him.
Taking charge in the sexual arena greatly increases your odds of having a satisfying sex life and takes an awful lot of pressure off your mate. It may just increase your desire, as well.
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Thursday, August 30, 2007
Thursday, July 12, 2007
Sex and Cellulite
I frequently hear from women whose sexual desire has plummeted as the discomfort with their bodies has intensified. Many women in their late 40's and 50's are witnessing the effect of time and gravity on their ageing bodies. Sagging breasts, poochy bellies, cellulite-ridden thighs, upper arm flab - the list of hated body features seems to go on and on. It's a rare woman in our youth and thin-obsessed culture who feels good about her body. Even skinny women have no shortage of body-hatred as they compare themselves to the genetically blessed and/or surgically enhanced models which fill our TV screens and magazines.
Poor body image has a direct impact on whether women are comfortable engaging in sex. If you're uncomfortable in your body and you're imagining your partner recoiling in disgust at first contact with some extra flesh, then it's unlikely that you're relaxed enough - much less hot enough - to have passionate, steamy sex. Never mind that men, unlike women, don't tend to zero in on cellulite or saddle bags. The majority of men focus on NAKED and WILLING.
So here's the deal: exercise, tone-up, change what you can, but begin to appreciate all that your body does for you and stop waging war with it. Make a habit of standing naked in front of a full-length mirror, keeping your claws in, until you reach a place of body acceptance - flaws and all.
It's only then that you'll be fully available for all the pleasure the body has to offer.
Poor body image has a direct impact on whether women are comfortable engaging in sex. If you're uncomfortable in your body and you're imagining your partner recoiling in disgust at first contact with some extra flesh, then it's unlikely that you're relaxed enough - much less hot enough - to have passionate, steamy sex. Never mind that men, unlike women, don't tend to zero in on cellulite or saddle bags. The majority of men focus on NAKED and WILLING.
So here's the deal: exercise, tone-up, change what you can, but begin to appreciate all that your body does for you and stop waging war with it. Make a habit of standing naked in front of a full-length mirror, keeping your claws in, until you reach a place of body acceptance - flaws and all.
It's only then that you'll be fully available for all the pleasure the body has to offer.
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