Decreasing the 'Work'

For those people who sometimes feel like sex is just too much work, I'd like to suggest some ways to reduce the workload. The following suggestions are not meant to apply to every sexual encounter but are for those times when you or your partner want to have sex but don't want to work too hard at it.

• Since each of you knows best how to get yourself to orgasm, you could simply engage in simultaneous masturbation. It can actually be a real turn-on and may lead to a more mutual lovemaking session at a later date when you have more energy.
• Use a vibrator as part of your lovemaking. For women, this can speed up arousal and shorten the time needed to reach orgasm.
• Let your partner know if you're receptive to sex but don't want to put the energy into getting to orgasm. It really is ok to have sex without getting to the big "O".

Hopefully, you're not always going to be a lazy lover, but having some shortcuts as part of your repertoire can keep your sex life charged even when you're not.