How To Get More Sex

If you're the one pushing for more sex in your relationship, it's time to stop pushing if you're serious about change. I'm sure you believe that life-long celibacy will be your fate if you give up trying to get some action in the bedroom, but what you're currently doing probably only produces occasional, less-than-satisfying sex anyway. Sex is really not that enjoyable with a partner who's only giving in under pressure.

Now you may have tried giving up in the past - no pressure, no criticism - just to see how long it would take for your partner to approach YOU. That doesn't cut it. A moratorium on sex (and pressure for sex) doesn't work if you're doing nothing else differently. If you're silently - and resentfully - waiting for your partner to make the first move, you're likely to be waiting a long time.

Real change is about letting go of your sexual expectations and beginning to meet your partner's expectations. Think about your partner's repetitive complaints about you and the relationship. What is it that they want - more time? more appreciation? more romance? more help? Whatever it is that they're looking for, that's your ticket to filling their heart. And it's not enough to do it for a few days or a week and then sit back and wait for your 'reward'. This isn't a simple barter - I'll scratch your back if you'll scratch mine. It's about giving to your partner out of love and out of a genuine concern for their needs.

If you have a long history of sexual conflict with your partner, it will take time to convince them that you care as much about their needs as you care about your own. But if you're willing to be patient, there's no better aphrodisiac in the world.