If you limit sexuality to an expression of love, then you miss out on much that is playful and erotic about sex. You end up feeling guilty about the sexual thoughts and fantasies that pop up in your mind that have nothing to do with love, or you may be offended by your partner's erotic fantasies and desires.
Often the need to romanticize sex is rooted in a general discomfort with sex. Feelings of disgust and revulsion toward our 'animalistic' urges are a product of negative sexual conditioning both within our families and our culture. Those feelings can also result from hurtful or traumatic sexual experiences. When those feelings are not worked through and people aren't comfortable with sexuality, sex can only be enjoyed when it's air-brushed with gushing sentiment and candlelight.
Not that love and deep emotional intimacy aren't vital aspects of sex. But sex encompasses so much more. When you can bring your whole self to sexual expression, you not only increase your pleasure but enhance the connection with your partner, as well.
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