What if you have a partner who's made it perfectly clear that they have no interest in sex and have no intention of continuing to accomodate your sexual desire? Sound harsh? Believe me, it happens.
Obviously, you can decide that you're committed to the relationship, sex or no sex, and just take care of your own sexual needs. No one should be forced into having sex that they don't want. The problem I have with someone who simply shuts down and refuses to make any effort in the sexual arena is that they're completely dismissing an important need of their partner. It's hard to feel loved when your needs aren't taken seriously, and taking out the sexual component of a couple relationship has the potential to do serious damage to the couple bond.
There are no easy answers when you want a sex life with your partner, and they want no part of it. Couple therapy is certainly recommended if you can get that level of cooperation. Ask your partner if there's anything you could do that might make a difference in their willingness to work on your sexual relationship. If they identify something, do it, but stop any pushing or pressuring. You've got to do your part in eliminating negativity from the sexual dynamic.
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