'Let's Get It On...' - The Start-Up

Some people struggle with how to let their partner know when they're "in the mood for love". If you want to increase the odds of generating some interest, I'd suggest asking your partner what kind of approach he/she prefers. Some people like a direct approach while others are turned off without a little romance or seduction. Initiating sex is risky business. Hearing 'no' can feel like rejection - even though there may be a very good reason for your partner's lack of interest. Some couples develop their own signals to let each other know when they're interested - like lighting a certain candle in the bedroom or leaving a stuffed animal on your bedmate's pillow. Even if your partner blows out the candle or tosses the teddy bear, that's a little easier to take than a cold shoulder when you attempt to embrace your lover under the covers. So be creative in coming up with your own private love language - and be sure to listen when your partner clues you in or their start-up preferences.