Resistance

I've written previously about sexual problems and strategies for addressing them, but what if you have a partner who refuses to face a problem or get any help for it?

First, try to understand what's behind the refusal. Is it the inability to take ownership of the problem because of ego? Is it embarrassment about seeking help from a doctor? Is there an assumption that the problem will eventually just 'go away' on its own?

Second, express your frustration and concern about both the immediate and long-term impact on your sexual relationship. Refrain from any criticism or attack. Stress the value you place on your physical intimacy.

Third, ask if there's anything you can do that might help solve the problem. Be willing to explore alternative solutions. Gently ask for a commitment to implementing a change or seeking help from a doctor or other professional.

Ignoring sexual problems can lead to much bigger issues down the road and unnecessarily contaminate a couple's sexual relationship. Don't let your partner's denial and resistance become your own.