Generating sexual interest from an unresponsive partner is tricky business. Nagging, complaining, pouting, and withdrawing just feed the problem. If you want to improve your sexual relationship, you need a different approach.
The first step is taking the temperature of your overall relationship. The sex life with your partner doesn't exist in a vacuum. Until you fix any big sources of friction and distance in your relationship, you can't reasonably expect your partner to embrace your goal of a lusty love life.
Listen carefully to your partner and begin working harder to meet their non-sexual needs. Stop using your partner's sexual rejection as a justification for withholding what they want from you. Demonstrate your interest in being a better partner. Begin building more romance into your relationship - without expecting a sexual 'reward'. Your partner needs to feel valued for more than your sexual fulfillment.
Then it's time to talk. On Monday, I'll post on how-to's for 'The Talk'.
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