'The Talk'

If previous conversations with your partner about sex have been laced with sarcasm and put-downs, you're gong to have to approach this talk gingerly. Making sure the relationship is on solid ground is a prerequisite. Then try sharing why you feel that the sexual part of your relationship is important. Share what you get from your lovemaking and what rewards you anticipate for both of you if there is an improvement in your sex life.

Stay positively focused and recall what has been special about your sexual relationship. Apologize for the ways that you allowed distance to slip into the relationship. Let your partner know that you regret any negativity or pressure that you've been responsible for. Ask what your partner needs from you to increase their sexual interest and how you can be a more desirable mate.

Listen carefully to your partner's responses. You may not hear exactly what you want to hear, but you might hear something that will help get things moving in a better direction.