I frequently hear complaints from women whose partners are asking them to do something sexually that they're just not comfortable doing. Often it's not anything especially kinky - just something outside their comfort zone, like a new sexual position, enacting a fantasy, or talking 'dirty'.
You certainly have the right to refuse sexual requests that you find repugnant or completely unacceptable. However, being willing to stretch your comfort zone to include new sexual behaviors can be a gift to your partner and a boost to the intensity of your sex life.
The next time your partner wants to try something new, you might want to say you'll think about it instead of responding with a quick 'no'. Find out why your partner is suggesting it and share where your discomfort lies. Maybe there's a variation of the request or some small steps you would be willing to try. Taking a risk can bring you and your partner closer together - and you might find more enjoyment in it than you anticipated.
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