Faking It

Are you one of the 85% of boomer women who has faked an orgasm? According to several surveys, that's the percentage who have faked an orgasm at least once. Alright, I'll give you a pass on once - I'll even give you a pass on several times (which hopefully were in the distant past). But if the restaurant scene from "When Harry Met Sally" is regularly enacted in your bedroom, you're cheating yourself and your partner.

There may be times when you just can't get into the sex enough to climax, but fake it so that your partner's feelings won't be hurt. Or if your partner's the type who just won't give up until you come, you fake it so that he'll quit trying. Understandable, but bottomline, dishonest. Do you really want the intimacy with your partner tainted by a lie? And if he's not doing what you need in order to reach orgasm, do you want to give positive reinforcement for poor performance?

An orgasm does not need to be the goal of every sexual encounter. Sometimes the touching and the closeness are enough. Sometimes you may simply want to give your partner pleasure but not be in a place to take your own. That's ok - and if you share that with your partner, you can leave the acting to those who get paid for it.