Why Bother?

If you're someone who never feels any sexual urges or drive, why should you put effort into making sex a priority? Why not just give it a rest?


Let's start with your relationship. Sex is like relationship super glue. It's the one thing that makes your primary relationship different from all others. There's also a bonding chemical called oxytocin that's released when you're having sex (and when mothers are breast feeding) that builds trust and brings you closer to your partner. Let sex slip away from your relationship and emotional distance is usually not far behind. And if you're in a relationship with someone who DOES care about sex, I probably don't need to tell you that ignoring your partner's need is a surefire recipe for couple trouble.

Try giving a little extra attention to your sex life this week and take note of the fringe benefits to your relationship. You may be glad you bothered.