The Top Ten

One way to ease into a conversation with your partner about individual turn-ons is for each of you to make a list of your top ten favorite sexual activities. Include the things that help you get into the mood, the kinds of foreplay you enjoy, how you like to have intercourse, and what you like to do after it's all over. Limit yourself to ten right now - you can always add to it later.

Writing down your all-time favorite sex moves does more than get a conversation started - it's an attention-grabber for your partner who will probably be less likely in the future to 'forget'what it is that gets you interested and keeps you coming back for more.