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Monday, August 6, 2007

Racing Thoughts or Racy Thoughts?

Do thoughts of the presentation you’re giving at work tomorrow and the running list of errands before and after work keep you from getting into the mood tonight? Sometimes your hyperactive brain can shut down your ability to relax and keep you from focusing on the pleasure available in the moment. Turning down the volume on all those racing thoughts can be a challenge, but you can learn how to get more in charge of your puppy mind and use it to your advantage in the bedroom.

Try writing down your thoughts before going to bed. The thought process is often very circular so thoughts keep going around and around in your head. When you write, you use a part of the brain that is more linear so the thoughts quit spinning and you get more closure on them. Write down a to-do list for the next day so that you can stop the mental rehearsal.

After you’ve emptied your thoughts onto paper, use the freed up space to begin thinking sexy thoughts – fantasies, favorite sexual memories, hot scenes from movies, etc. If your mind returns to the anxiety of the day, practice letting it go and returning to the fantasy of the day. Focus on relaxation. Take some deep breaths. Don’t let your sexual desire be snuffed out by bullying anti-sex thoughts. Strengthen your sexual response by turning racing thoughts into racy thoughts.

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