Expanding Your Sexuality

I've gotten several emails lately from women who once derived great joy from sex but now find that it never even crosses their mind. These women feel a sense of loss over the absence of spontaneous desire that once fueled their sexual interest.

When the hormones driving desire begin to wane, it's not as easy to feel like the juicy, sexy person you once were. As a young person, your sexuality was defined by your desire and by the desire of your partner. As you age, it's important to expand your definition of what it means to be sexual. Your sexuality encompasses your whole identity as a female, your passion for life, your sensual enjoyment of a cup of coffee out on the deck or a massage from your partner, your ability to accept and enjoy your body, your innocent flirtation with the good-looking waiter, your joy in holding your grandchildren - you get the idea. The more you can stay in the moment and experience life with all of your senses, the more sexual you'll feel. Maybe not the horniness of earlier days, but a fuller, deeper experience of what it really means to be sexual.