Men's Programming

I've been talking about women in the last several posts - how they can claim their sexuality, expand their definition of what it means to be sexual, and begin paying close attention to the times when they are in touch with their sexual energy. All of these things are difficult, not only because of ageing, but because women were not programmed to be full sexual beings. But how about men? Their programming was very different - so how come so many men are suffering from low sexual desire?


Men were programmed to be sexual opportunists - to get it whenever, whereever, and with whomever they can. As males come into adolescence, their sex drive commands a lot of their attention and their frequent erections are anything but subtle signs of sexual interest. But being sexually driven - and being given permission to be sexual - does not equal sexual wholeness. When testosterone levels decrease and there's no longer a sexual thought every two minutes, men who have relied solely on their sex drive and always reliable erections for their sexual identity can feel lost and 'less like a man'. I'll post tomorrow about how men can claim more sexual wholeness.