What's Normal?

Most studies estimate that low sexual desire affects one out of 3 women and one out 7 men. So if you're struggling to keep up a lively sex life with your mate, you've got a lot of company.

But what is normal? How often are other people 'doing it'? According to many surveys, the average sexual frequency for married couples is 1 to 2 times a week, often less when there are small children and demanding work schedules. Of course, 'normal' is a loaded term - one that suggests that if you're having more or less sex than the average couple, you're 'abnormal' - and that's just not the case.

How often do you want to have sex? Once a day - once a week - once a month? How about your partner? Somewhere between your ideal frequency and your partner's ideal frequency is probably where you're going to find the most satisfaction. If that number puts you above or below the national average, don't sweat it. It's what works in your relationship that counts.