If you and your partner have experienced any difficulties in your sexual relationship, there's a good chance that blame has reared its ugly head. Blaming is a barrier to intimacy. Safety is paramount in creating an intimate connection, and it's unlikely that either of you are going to feel very safe if you've been verbally attacked by the other.
Though blame is destructive no matter where or when it occurs in a relationship, it's particularly damaging in the sexual realm. We are very vulnerable when it comes to our sexuality, and attacks are incredibly wounding. Even when the attacks seem to be simple observations, such as "you're never interested in sex anymore" or "sex is all you think about", there is a high potential for hurt.
Solutions to sexual problems start with listening and understanding. There's no way to win the blame game.
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