I once heard a woman say that if she wanted her husband to paint a room or do some repair around the house, she knew exactly how to get him in the right frame of mind. She'd initiate a sizzling sexual encounter the night before and then hit him with her requests the next morning. Maybe he never got the connection - or maybe he did, but thought it was a good tradeoff. Either way, it still represents a kind of prostitution.
When sex is used as a negotiation or a bargaining tool, the loving and open context of giving and receiving is destroyed. Sex becomes a mechanical performance rather than an intimate exchange. Unfortunately, hidden agendas and tradeoffs not only sabotage a couple's sex life - they also compromise the intimacy of the entire relationship. That just can't be a good trade.
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