So why do women so often relinquish control of the remote to their partner? You could say it's because the man is the one more invested in the TV, but I too frequently hear complaints from women about sitting through constant channel surfing or their partner changing the channel just when something has caught their interest to believe that women simply don't care.
Women have been conditioned since birth to put others' needs before their own. That serves a useful purpose during childrearing, but it's a recipe for trouble in relationships. Making your partner's needs more important than your own usually leads to resentment down the road even if it doesn't feel like a big deal in the moment.
Women may also be motivated to accomodate and defer their own needs in order to avoid conflict. Many women are intimidated by men's anger even when it is not explosive or abusive.
They just don't want to 'rock the boat'.
And what role do men play in this dynamic? I'll explore that on Monday.
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