"There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right." Tolle is talking about how the ego seeks an energy charge through a sense of moral superiority. Unfortunately, that sense of being one-up often plays out with your partner - and ultimately affects the relationship. How many of the arguments with your partner stem from your investment in being right?
Conflict isn't the only expression of the need to be right. Complaining is another favorite sport of the ego. It's like shooting fish in a barrel to find fault in your partner and claim a position of victimhood relative to their 'wrongness'. But the cost of that 'sport' is resentment - the number one enemy of desire.
The key to reducing conflict and complaints in your relationship is to become aware of your own ego as well as the ego of your partner. It's ego that has such a high need to be right, that takes your partner's 'wrong' behavior so personally and then holds on tightly to resentment. When you step out of ego, understanding and forgiveness come easily. That's not only 'right', it's also what will make you happy.
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