Crude Dudes

In the infield of the Kentucky Derby, there's an annual ritual of guys pleading and chanting for girls to lift their tops and expose their breasts. There are always a few girls who comply. Is that sexual exploitation? Are the guys perverts or just normal males doing what guys do?

Yesterday I posted about how distorted sexuality can affect your sense of what it means to be sexual. But what if you're turned off by what passes for 'normal' sexuality? Maybe it's crassness or the more purely physical expressions of the sex drive that are a problem for you. Women particularly seem to take issue with sex as a physical drive that has nothing to do with love or connection.

The sex drive exists so that people will keep reproducing themselves. It's biology, plain and simple. Women who have never really experienced much of a sex drive may be inclined to regard their partner's desire as 'animalistic' rather than natural and healthy. That critical attitude tends to put a damper on a couple's sex life.

Women shouldn't have to be subjected to crude or vulgar sexual advances from their partner when they've made it clear that primitivity is unwelcome. They just need to be careful not to scorn what they once tried very hard to attract - their partner's sexual interest.