Following the Connection

When sex flows from a feeling of connection, the connection determines what you do with each other sexually. Rather than following a predictable sequence of moves or the same old routine, you stay present in the moment. You allow yourself to venture into the unknown as you go with what you and your partner are both feeling.

Following the connection requires not only presence but courage and a strong sense of self. It means letting go of anxiety and performance issues. It means letting go of expectations. It can be tremendously freeing and intimate, but it can only happen when you're willing to be vulnerable. The relationship must be one in which you feel safe enough to allow that vulnerability.

Not every sexual encounter is going to tap the potential for intimate, electric, in-the-moment sex. But when it happens, you'll expand the boundaries of your sexuality - and you'll probably want more of it.