Make-Up Sex

When you and your partner have a fight, sex may be the last thing on your mind. But when things settle down and you realize that how the dishwasher is loaded really isn't that big of a deal, sex is a great way to reconnect and reaffirm what really is important - the relationship.
The intensity of make-up sex has to do with that reconnection - it's the relief you both feel in coming back from the edge.

Men are typically ready for make-up sex more quickly than women. You could say that's just because they're generally more interested in sex, period, but I also think it's because they have real trouble with the feeling of disconnection. Not that women like disconnection either, but women tend to have more connections with other people and may not feel quite as untethered as men in the aftermath of a fight.

I don't recommend initiating a fight just to create intense sexual bonding afterward, but I do recommend allowing sex to be part of your healing when the inevitable conflict comes.