What's your strong suit - being on the giving end or receiving end of sexual pleasure? In my work with couples over the years, I've noticed that many people have a definite preference. Of course, everyone knows that the best sex involves mutual pleasuring, but you may find that you're a little unbalanced in one direction or the other.
Those who are more into giving pleasure may have difficulty in letting others do things for them. That might be because deep down they don't feel deserving - or it might be that they feel more in control when they're on the giving end. Or maybe they're just really turned on by turning their partner on.
Those who are more sexually passive may find it easier to focus on their arousal when they're on the receiving end. They may be inhibited, feel uncomfortable, or be unsure of exactly how to please their partner. Or they might be sexually uninterested.
If you're aware of some imbalance in your comfort with giving or receiving sexual pleasure, there's no time like the present for taking some small steps outside your comfort zone. Both you and your partner will reap the benefits.
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