Sex Talk

One of the interesting outcomes of the 101 straight days of sex experiment was that the couple involved began actually talking about sex as well as having it on a daily basis. They started sharing sexual preferences - what worked and what didn't work and why. Though the couple had been together for many years and had had somewhere around a thousand sexual encounters, they'd never talked much about it. Whatever hesitancy or discomfort that had kept that dialogue from happening previously seemed to melt away once sex became part of their daily routine.

The discussions led to new discoveries about one another that made sex more enjoyable and more satisfying. Being able to talk about the nitty-gritty mechanics of sex also created more openness in their overall communication. They found it easier to disclose feelings they might previously have kept to themselves. Maybe that was because the daily sex created more intimacy and maybe it was because they simply spent more time and effort on each other and the relationship.

Whatever the reason, open sharing and self-disclosure are both cause and effect when it comes to a healthy sexual relationship. That means either start having more sex or start talking about it if you want to ramp up your intimacy.