Time Choices

Yesterday I talked about taking charge of fatigue. That may sound a lot easier said than done. Standing up to fatigue involves consciously choosing how you spend your time.

When you're tired at the end of the day, you may need to actually rest - take a 20-minute nap, get to bed earlier, or watch a half-hour of TV. But what tends to happen instead is a mindless wasting of precious hours just vegging - flipping from one channel to the next on TV, surfing the Internet, talking on the phone, browsing through catalogs, etc. A certain amount of that is fine, but may not be as restful as some actual shuteye and certainly not as energizing or restorative as an after-dinner walk, a brisk shower, a long soak in the tub, or some time listening to music.

The idea isn't to ignore fatigue but to figure out the best response to it. When you learn how to recharge your batteries - how to fill yourself up when you feel completely drained - you'll free up both time and energy for more and better sex.