When sexuality encompasses your whole self, sex becomes much more than mechanistic behavior driven by youthful hormones. Sex is integrated into your life and your sense of identity in a way that infuses passion into all that you do - and all that you are and do brings passion into your sex life. So what makes up the whole self?
There are 5 primary elements of self: mental, emotional, relational, physical, and spiritual. I've discussed the spiritual element in the last two posts, so I'll move on to the others - starting with the mental. How are you faring in the mental dimension? How do you keep yourself mentally stimulated and challenged? You may have a job that gives your brain a regular workout - maybe you work the daily crossword puzzle or word jumbles - or you may find that reading and discussing ideas with friends keeps your mind sharp. As you age, it's important to keep learning new things to keep your brain cells multiplying. Take up a new hobby, learn a foreign language, take an adult education class, enroll in a dance class, start doing yoga or tai chi - the possibilities are endless. And don't forget to include sexual fantasies and thoughts of your lover in your mental gymnastics!
Tomorrow I'll move on to the emotional element of self.
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