The Answer is 'Yes'

I've posted previously on everyone's right to turn down a partner's sexual invite. Even if you are committed to making sex a priority, there will be times when you are simply too tired, too sick, too preoccupied, too__________(fill in the blank) to get up for getting down.

Here's another point of view by a well-respected expert in matters of sex and love. Pat Love (that really is her name) suggests that the higher desire partner gets to say when sex happens and the lower desire partner gets to say how it happens. She certainly allows for exceptions, but what she's saying is that each partner's needs are important. To accomodate the higher desire partner's need for more frequent sex, the lower desire person says yes to most invites. To accomodate the lower desire person's lack of interest or energy, that person gets to determine what kind of action they're up for, including quickies.

It's an interesting solution to the dilemma of desire differences. Neither partner is a villain and both partners get their need at least partially met. You might want to give it a try.