Forgiveness

There was an article in the paper not long ago about the health benefits of forgiveness. The benefits included reduced stress, reduced pain, better relationships, improved heart health, and greater happiness. People who chose to forgive those that had hurt them were able to get unstuck and move on with their lives. Forgiveness is more for the forgivee than it is the forgiver. It's about claiming responsibility for one's own happiness rather than giving that power to someone else.

If your partner has hurt or angered you (and whose hasn't?), your ability to forgive will have a big impact on your sexual relationship. The grudges that you carry will keep distance between you and your partner and will shut down your sexual desire. Forgiveness for big hurts, like affairs, take time and hard work. Professional help may be needed. But everyone can work on forgiving the little hurts - the disappointments, irritations, and misunderstandings that are part of everyday life in a relationship. You'll be healthier and happier - and will probably have a better sex life.