Beliefs

Every day in my work as a therapist, I witness the power of beliefs to shape people's lives. Those who believe the world is a dangerous place live with an anxious anticipation that often contributes to the negative outcomes they fear. Those who believe in a more benign universe tend to expect positive outcomes and go about creating them.

What you believe about your own sexuality has the same kind of impact on your sexual life. If you believe that your low desire makes you an asexual person, then that's probably what you will be. If, however, you believe that your sexuality is far more than the degree of spontaneous desire you feel, you'll probably find ways to actively nurture and express your sexuality.

If you're aware of operating out of negative sexual beliefs about yourself, you can begin challenging them. It's never too late to adopt a belief that promises new possibilities for your sexual self.