Too Much Work?

People who have little or no sexual interest often respond to their partner's sexual overtures with irritation or even disdain. They want their partner to simply 'get over it' and settle for the sexual crumbs being doled out. I've heard more than a few people complain that trying to work up desire that they don't feel naturally is just too much work.

Exactly what constitutes too much work? It's work to listen when you don't feel like listening. It's work to understand when a partner's position seems incomprehensible. It's work to accomodate a partner's differences. For some reason, sex is often put in a different category from other efforts made for the benefit of a relationship. Yet efforts in the sexual arena yield some of the greatest relationship dividends. Those who question the value of the work involved in making sex a priority might want to do another cost/benefit analysis.