Many people confuse desire with arousal - or assume they're one and the same. Arousal is the state of being physically turned on, which usually does create sexual desire. But you can also have desire without being turned on.
Think about the times when you've felt a desire to eat when you weren't really hungry. Maybe seeing a Red Lobster commercial featuring sizzling shrimp and lobster - or reading a recipe for a double chocolate molten cake - or maybe just feeling bored or anxious - lots of things can make you want to head for the refrigerator besides hunger. Just as the desire to eat can exist without the physical sensation of hunger, you can have a desire for sex without physical arousal.
Sexual desire can be a willingness or a want to have sex. Focusing on the thought that sex will be an enjoyable experience and a chance to connect to your partner can increase desire. You may want to limit how often you eat when you're not really hungry, but feel free to indulge sexual desire - with or without arousal.
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