What do you talk to your partner about? Probably jobs, kids, politics, family, the room that needs to be painted, etc. We talk about the things that matter to us. Interestingly, the talking itself makes those things figure more prominently in our consciousness. In other words, talking about issues reinforces their importance. You can probably guess where I'm headed with this.
When did you last talk to your partner about sex? When did you last tell your partner how much they mean to you? Interest in sex is fed and maintained by thinking and talking about sex. If you never have conversations about sexuality - yours, your partner's, or the next door neighbor's - sex is more likely to fall off your internal map.
Start noticing what you and your partner talk about. If sex talk is limited to, "Do you want to get lucky tonight?", try recalling and sharing some of your favorite sexual memories. That's with your partner. Even if it doesn't set off any sparks, it will probably be more fun than discussing the new plumbing you need for the bathroom.
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