I received an email recently from a woman who no longer felt comfortable engaging in oral sex with her partner because he had critiqued her 'performance' and tried to teach her the proper technique for performing fellatio. She was very hurt by his criticism and quickly concluded that she was a failure as a lover.
This critique was probably delivered at a lousy time (like in the middle of lovemaking) and may have sounded a lot more critical than instructional. Giving sexual feedback is tricky business, so timing and tone are very important. But this woman is making a big mistake if she holds onto the hurt and lets it contaminate the sexual relationship with her partner. She can let her partner know how she'd like to receive feedback in the future and challenge herself to be more receptive to learning how to please him. Everyone is different in their sexual responses and preferences. Being willing to listen to your partner's preferences - and express your own - is the best way to improve your love life.
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