Arousal Styles

According to Michael Metz, Ph.D., there are three general styles of sexual arousal. He calls these three patterns: sensual entrancement, partner involvement, and role enactment. In sensual entrancement, you become aroused by focusing on your own body and your own physical sensations. With partner involvement arousal, your excitement comes from focusing on the connection with your partner and on his or her physical responses. Role enactment arousal involves imagination, fantasy, and role-playing.

All three styles are common and one is not necessarily better than another. Individuals may have a strong preference for one of the styles and use it in virtually every sexual encounter - or they may mix it up, sometimes even moving from one style to another within one lovemaking session. Styles may also change over the course of a relationship. When partners are using different arousal styles, there's the potential for misunderstanding and hurt.

I'll talk a little more in depth about each of the styles over the next few days.