Eroticism

Most definitions of eroticism emphasize the arousal of sexual desire. Maybe it's a lack of eroticism in long-term relationships that contributes to decreasing desire. When a relationship is new, the initial attraction and romance are all that it takes to stimulate desire. At some point, mature eroticism has to kick in to replace the impact of initial attraction.

What is it that makes something erotic? There are as many answers to that question as there are human beings on the planet, but one of the big factors in eroticism is non-predictability. Think about your very earliest sexual encounters with your partner. One of the powerful turn-ons was not knowing what was coming next or how far things were going to go.

Now that you've settled in with your partner, a lot of that mystery is gone. That doesn't mean there can't still be an element of surprise in your love-making. Being non-predictable keeps the passion alive long after the honeymoon is over - and the unexpected doesn't have to be big or elaborate. Simply changing the pace or order of sexual activity is often enough to increase the eroticism. Next time you're being sexual with your partner, try making the outcome uncertain. That's a predictable -and certain - way to make it more erotic.