One-Sided Sex

If you're a woman with little desire or interest in sex, you may think that physically satisfying your partner is holding up your part of the sexual relationship. However, I frequently hear complaints from men about partners who 'just lie there' or seem anxious to 'get it over with'. These complaints are sometimes angrily expressed, but I usually see hurt and sadness not far beneath the anger.

Not only is a one-sided sexual encounter lacking intimacy, it's also a major turn-off for many men. One of the most important aphrodisiacs for men is their partner's arousal. If you're consistently uninterested, unresponsive, and non-orgasmic, your partner's pleasure will be significantly diminished.

I certainly want women to seek pleasure for their own sake - but if that isn't sufficient motivation, they need to recognize the negative relationship impact of one-sided sex. The pleasure women give is directly related to the pleasure they take.