"I really don't care about sex anymore. Why should I try to make our sex life better when there are so many things that he just keeps 'forgetting' to get around to? It's easy for me to just 'forget' about sex!"
I've posted about the impact of resentment on sexual desire. Nothing kills sexual interest more quickly in a relationship. But there will always be something that your partner does or doesn't do that you find irritating or frustrating. Sometimes people with little sexual interest use those frustrations as a way to avoid sex. They really don't want to address the problems in their sexual relationship so they keep manufacturing grievances to justify their avoidance. They may not even be aware that that's what they're doing. It's just a lot easier to focus on their partner's deficits than to face their own issues.
You may have legitimate complaints about your partner's behavior. Just be sure you're not using those complaints as a way to shut down sexual action.
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