Yo-Yo No Mo'

Has your weight done the yo-yo thing over the last 10-20 years? Lose 10 pounds, gain back 15? At least you're weight isn't being monitored by an international viewing audience of millions. It's got to be tough for Oprah who has not only fought a life-long battle with weight but has done so in the public eye. There have been many times when she has professed that this time she'd made the connection - that it's not about what you eat but it's what is eating you. But then the weight would come right back.

In the June issue of O Magazine, Oprah laments the wasted time and energy she's spent hating herself fat and wanting herself thin. She wishes she had spent that time loving what is. She now knows for sure that she is not her body and not her body image. She has taken to heart not only Eckhart Tolle's message of a new consciousness but has also realized what Marianne Williamson meant when she told her, "In order to lose weight on a permanent basis, you want a shift in your belief about who and what you are."

When you get to a place of full self-acceptance, weight ceases to be an issue. I know - you think you can't accept yourself until you lose that weight. It just doesn't work that way. And until you make that connection, your weight will keep fluctuating and you'll keep letting the scales define your worth. And your sex life will suffer.