There are a million and one ways to complete the sentence, "If you loved me, you would.....". Like 'you'd quit leaving your dirty socks on the floor', 'you'd buy me a diamond necklace', 'you'd come home from work earlier', 'you'd lose weight', etc. etc. Or maybe you think if your partner really loved you, he or she would always be eager for sex, regardless of what else might be going on.
People who equate love with sex feel abandoned when their partner isn't interested in getting it on. More than just a bruised ego or hurt feelings, abandonment feels like you've been left in the dust. That puts a lot of pressure on a partner to deliver whether they feel like it or not.
It's dangerous to assume that sex equals love - or vice versa. Your partner may be tired, hurting, depressed, or any number of things that have nothing to do with you. Even the most loving couples aren't always going to be on the same page sexually. Love allows for differences in desire and doesn't over-interpret those differences.
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