Storytelling

If you've been reading this blog for awhile, you've probably noticed that I often refer to the 'stories' that people tell themselves about situations or about a partner's behavior. It recently occurred to me that it might be helpful to explain that concept in more depth.

Human beings are constantly absorbing information from their environment - listening, observing, and taking the pulse of whatever is going on around them. But they don't stop at information-gathering. They interpret the data in a way that makes sense to them, given their life experience up to that point. In other words, they assign a particular meaning to why something has happened. That is the 'story' which, in our egocentric way of experiencing the world, we often confuse for the 'truth'.

The stories you tell yourself about what it means when you lack desire for your partner or what it means when your partner isn't sexually interested will play a major role in how you feel and how you go about addressing those issues. I'll post more on that tomorrow.